I Do, (Until You ___)

WARNING

From this point on you've consented to read this message. So whatever you read its your own damn fault.

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I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

No matter what version you use, no matter how you word it. When you get married this is what you're in for. THIS IS YOUR CONTRACT!! So what does this mean. Well, you're literally saying that You take the other person to be your mate for life. Through all the good times and all the bad times, when they've got money in the bank or bill collectors on the doorstep. When they've showered and when they've got that three day binge drinking hangover breath.to love and cherish till one of you dies.. THAT'S IT!! That's what you agree to when you say I do. That's what all the women fight for and all the men run from. Sad reality is we need more folks running in general. Cause marriage ain't easy.

Next month I celebrate 3 years of blissful matrimony. Now some of you reading this will be like hell, it can't be that bad if you got married and are STILL HAPPILY married. Especially given my penchant for being an overall asshole. All I can say is, the Mrs understood what she was getting into. She was warned SEVERAL TIMES by friends and family. Hell people still apologize to her simply because they know how I can be. Yet she still loves me. Through the good and bad. That's what it's all about.

I know marriage isn't easy. Hell I'm the product of a happily married couple. My folks have been married for 50 years this month (if my math is correct). I heard the arguments. I heard the discussions. I've seen the love that trumps everything else. It's what holds them together. They grew up in a time when marriage wasn't taken lightly. They raised me to understand that and to understand that when you say I do, you should mean it.

Not the way some of these fucks mean it. Its gotten to the point that I do has a caveat in small print that says (I Do, until you're broke, fat, ugly as a swamp rat, or you swap bodily fluids with another person). That's how folks are treating their vows these days. Frankly it's sickening. Yea I said it, its fucking sickening. The problem is folks want to be married but they only want the good and the somewhat bad. Folks aren't in it for the long haul.

Chad and Evelyn... this shit was doomed from the start. Simply because, he's a washed up football player and she's a whore.. YEA I SAID IT. She's a whore.. (click the link and check out the third definition). She's a media whore. No I've never watched that bullshit that she's on and I never will. The fact that I know who the fuck she is just from social media and news outlets is enough. (Ladies, don't get caught up in the word whore. It's a universal term.)

She found a condom receipt in a car and he headbutted her... And that's the end of their union that they were so happy to create... SERIOUSLY!!!! No extended argument, no heated explanations, no calls to the others friends trying to find out where they are cause you still love them and want to work it out.. A condom receipt and a headbutt and then divorce.. I'll say this and I'll stand by it. There was NO LOVE IN THIS MARRIAGE FROM THE START!!!

I'm not saying anyone should ever lay hands (or head in their case) on another individual. Yet mistakes do happen. Hell I'll say this, I think the head butt was accidental. Simply because I've never seen anyone THAT pissed off that they lean over and head butt another individual. I have seen it happen when that person is all up in someone else's face and during the screaming their heads collide. And give her history, I'm sure she was ready to fight when she saw the condom receipt.

What I'm saying is, this was the BAD that was talked about in their vows. Infidelity should not be the end of a marriage. If it is, at least attempt to find out how long it happened. If it was a series of events then I can see divorce being an option. If it was a one time thing you should attempt to work it out.

Having an affair is bad, but its not murder. Close your mouths, you did just read that correctly. An affair is bad, but it shouldn't end a marriage. Not one in which love was truly there. You agreed to be there through the good and bad... If this isn't bad, what is?


I've known folks that are fighting to get back to square one due to infidelity. I commend all of you. Simply because you're fighting to save the love that you have for each other. Lives should not be destroyed due to one indiscretion. Now if you on some Tiger Woods type shit BE GONE BEYOTCH!!!!!

I've written all of this to say, if you're thinking about marriage or you're about to get married stop and think about it first. It's so easy to love a person when they're smiling and being all lovey dovey with you. When they're spoiling you and putting you on a pedestal every day. Yet can you love that same person when they make a mistake. When they are yelling at you cause they've had a bad day at work. Are you willing to stick with them when they get laid off and are depressed cause they don't have a job.

It ain't easy, yet when two work at it. I mean REALLY WORK at it, marriage is so rewarding and satisfying..

SHOUT OUT TO MY FOLKS FOR CELEBRATING THAT BIG 50